On our 5th anniversary we went to the National Zoo and saw the baby panda. It was so fitting because the name of our DTC group is the Marching Pandas. Then today Richard called me and what was in the mail but our DTC pins with the logo which is... You guessed it ... PANDAS. It was nice, we spent the day at the Zoo taking pictures of all the different animals and then researching the amount of time that each of the animals take to have a child. We would laugh and guessimate how long and what our paper pregnancy would be more like. It was a little secret that Richard and I had. People walking around the zoo with there children were probably amazed and wondering why we were there with no children of our own. I felt like saying that hopefully that will be us soon. Then we went to Chinatown and did Mongolian BBQ. It was yummy and fun and something though Richard and I have done it apart we have never done as a couple. I think that Richard had a bit of a time walking around for so long since he just had surgery about two weeks ago. He wound up burning his bald head. Sometimes it is hard to know whether men are just being babies and then when I say to "Man Up", it actually is something that I should be sympathic for. I will learn soon enough.
I found out today that some of my Chinese side of my family found out that we are adopting from China. I had chosen not to tell them. I did however get to tell my Chinese grandmother before she passed away. I asked her for a good Chinese name but she said that Haley was fine. I told my father this and he said that she has not anymore grandchildren or great grandchildren after her mother passed away in the late 80's. Now i am stuck with do I keep her Chinese name as the middle name even though nannies and the orphanage people have named her or do we choose a middle name that is significant to our family. Lucky or Unlucky we do have time. That is for sure. I am not sure if the Chinese side of the family approves of our adopting or... it seemed like they were interested but truly interested or just being noisy. Hopefully they really appreciated and more importantly RESPECT our decision.
Monday, July 10, 2006
Pandas
Posted by K~ at 9:05 PM
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wonderful honesty Kindel. What a unique position you are in with your heritage. I am not in your shoes, but I know I struggled with letting my best friend since childhood know about our adoption. Her father is first generation Chinese and I worried that my learning of the culture, my writing of it may be off base at times and be taken wrong.
This is no where near what you are wrestling with, but I wanted you to know I have a tiny tiny tiny insight into wondering how to handle cultural confusion and also family confusion. Half of our family says they are behind us... but based on actions, this isn't true. China seems to be an issue, but Eric and I know it's right for us.
the rest of the world will just have to get on board!
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